I decided to interview my dear friend Erin Deasy for the “Women and Their Work” series because she constantly surprises me with her badassery. Erin has started two small businesses, lived in Taiwan for five years teaching English, and made it back to America where she is now working happily in solar sales. Recently, I have been curious about Erin’s online business called EcoEarthwares…Read More
For many of us, who we are, is what we do. It’s sort of a blended association. And most of the time when we are busy enough, we don’t notice that our sense of worth comes from our employment or our daily occupation. So, one day you find yourself unemployed or perhaps not as busy as you thought you’d be transitioning to a new career.
Suddenly, there is a lot of time to think and feel.
Some of those feelings can be uncomfortable. You may find yourself thinking some scary thoughts.Read More
One time a few years ago, my roommate came home to find me writhing white-faced in agony on my bed and asked if she should take me to the hospital.
Nope, thanks. Just cramping.
It was debilitating and anxiety-inducing. Besides the physical agony, it was embarrassing as hell. You can’t hide that level of pain, and people are inquisitive. So several days a month, being in public got awkward.
I was in just such a predicament one month.Read More
I thought I would be starting with a blank slate, but no. The app showed me how much (or rather how little) I have been moving. It was a big WTF moment for me. I knew I had been taking it easy lately, but I was aghast by that little bar graph.
To be fair, it’s how much I have moved while having my phone on me, so I had probably moved slightly more. However, even adjusting for that, I had been way too sedentary. I immediately felt motivated to get my step count up.Read More
Experimenting takes off the pressure that makes us feel like imposters and failures for not knowing what the heck we're doing with our lives. It's grace and play and everything good and healthy for your soul, so I sure want you to have it. I hope this helps!
Step 1: Identify an area in your life in which you want to experiment...
When the #MeToo movement arrived, I was offline. I assumed it would die out within a few days when something else came up for everyone to angst about online.
Instead, #MeToo has grown and started a cultural shift so grand and overdue and amazing that it still feels too good to be true. Still, instead of celebrating, I felt disgust. I had to finally sit down and journal about this to try to figure out why.Read More
I was so overwhelmed with my job, I found out my chances of getting pregnant are less than five percent, and my husband unexpectedly had to deploy.
Depression was something I have dealt with, but this anxiety was an entirely new beast that I did not know how to handle.Read More
Because I was experimenting, I let myself just go. This was so fun, and so novel, and so different than my normal stuck “what-should-I-do-with-my-time-but -I-don’t-want-to” inner turmoil that I was immediately hooked.
Somehow, without me noticing it, the war between “should” and “want to” dissolved inside of me.Read More
While shopping at Goodwill for a tea set, I ran into a creamer and a dish with a rose pattern on them that shocked me. It was the same pattern as my plastic tea set as a child! Suddenly, I remembered that I used to love having tea parties as a kid. I had completely forgotten about this.Read More
On my trip home, I got to see some of my oldest, best friends. They have daughters now, a tiny new 12-week-old baby and a clever, magical 8-year-old. My heart stretched and stretched, trying to figure out how to even hold the upwelling of love I felt. I considered the lives they could live, all the possible futures that could come to be.
At night, my soul kept rolling a new question over and over: “What do I want to leave behind?”Read More
I want my thoughts to be transformed from reactionary snippets to deep meaning by having enough quiet processing time in my body, in my soul, before I share them. I feel protective of this alchemy that daily blogging and 24-hour news and tweeting just don't allow for.Read More
I made Golden Milk Sleepy Drink, Banana Nut Quinoa Bars, and Spaghetti Squash with Italian "Stir-Fry." I highly recommend all three recipes!
I am not the best cook, but I love making things, and making things to eat feels extra decadent!
By the way, these are all gluten-free, vegetarian and delicious, you lucky dogs!Read More
I want you to know that as all encompassing as your depression is, as long as it has haunted and tormented you, it still can change. With the right therapist, the right medication, the right changes, the right something. I don’t know what the right thing is for you. But I know it exists. It is out there. It is worth trying and trying and just barely showing up for another day in case that’s the day the right something comes along.Read More
The world was already kinda overwhelming to me before Trump. However, my conscience could not abide to sit on the sidelines anymore. I decided be an imperfect, intermittent half-asstivist. I pick action items and events, put them on my calendar and SHOW UP. And I cut myself all kinds of slack.Read More
Imagining the worst helps us prepare and prevent troubles. Rather than try to stop this, we can protect our imaginations from going overboard with these 5 healthy habits.Read More
I was afraid of spending time alone, in my mind, just me and my imagination. I didn't trust it. It was a relationship that needed serious repair. Like a beautiful, powerful horse that had ridden me off a cliff, we both felt skittish about being around each other again, let alone riding. All we could do is take it slow.Read More
Our regular chatter dropped as we all became absorbed into our paintings. When we did talk, we spoke more slowly. I didn’t expect the rich conversation and relaxation that came with this craft for pre-schoolers.Read More
I stand on the edge of a cliff overlooking the ocean, only heard, not seen, in the dark to watch the sunrise
As first light shows me the horizon and the curvature of the earth I realize the sun doesn't rise
The earth turns and carries me with it on its back up into the light.
I'm riding it right now and every single moment even when I'm not thinking about it
I can feel myself rising.
I decided to experiment with what I thought of as "walking strong." It felt unfair to be constantly vigilant and pre-emptively moving out of people's way. My hypothesis was that holding my ground would be much less stressful. I walked as if in tadasana (mountain pose) and immediately felt more powerful.
On the sidewalk, I had a constant buzz of adrenaline, feeling like I was playing chicken with every person coming at me. I quickly noticed something…Read More